Private coaching for men who want to show up differently.
Personalized support for your relationships, emotional health, and personal growth.
Men come to us for all kinds of reasons.
Sometimes the hardest part is knowing where to start. You might have read the books, listened to the podcasts, gone to therapy, saved a hundred posts.
Yet you still find yourself back in the same place when you're hurt, angry, afraid, or under pressure. That's where support becomes useful.
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You can understand a pattern and still be run by it.
A lot of men are very good at figuring things out alone. That works until the problem involves the parts of you that are hardest to see clearly from the inside.
You can know you have an avoidant pattern and still shut down during conflict. You can understand your childhood wounds and still repeat the same hurtful behaviors with your partner.
Working with another person gives you somewhere to slow these moments down to look at what happened, understand what was happening underneath it, and process it at a deep enough level that you actually show up differently. Over time, this work transforms how you live.
How private coaching works
Weekly
Sessions run 60 or 90 minutes depending on your coach and the work you're doing. You bring in what's happening and we work to process what’s underneath it.
Between sessions
Your coach may suggest journaling, mindfulness, breathwork, emotional processing techniques, body awareness, or reflection exercises drawn from their training.
As needed
Your coach will be available and check in with you regularly between sessions via text, voice notes, or email to help you stay accountable andfeel supported.
A place where you can be honest
A lot of men spend years carrying things they don't know how to talk about:
fear & shame
anger & grief
resentment
sexual struggles
failing her
Many men have never had a relationship where they felt safe enough to say everything they're feeling out loud. Without that space, you learn to hold it in, intellectualize it, or wait until it comes out in ways you regret. Coaching gives you permission to stop hiding and to speak honestly without needing to have it all figured out first.
Understand what's underneath your patterns
Most of the behaviors men struggle with have a history. Understanding where a pattern comes from doesn't excuse harmful behavior, but it gives you a starting point for your inner work.
The man who shuts down
may have learned a long time ago that conflict wasn't safe.
The man who controls everything
may feel terrified when he loses a sense of certainty.
The man who gets defensive
may hear feedback as proof that he isn't good enough.
The man who can't talk about his feelings
may have spent most of his life learning to ignore them.
Your coach helps you become more aware of what happens inside you before the reaction, shutdown, or avoidance takes over. The more clearly you can see what's arising within you, the more choice you have over what happens next.
Do the work when life gets real.
Personal growth is easy to understand while you're calm. The real challenge is when conflict arises and you both get activated; when you feel rejected, when you're exhausted, when you're both triggered. That's when good intentions often aren’t enough.
Private coaching gives you a place to revisit those moments, understand what happened, and process them at a deeper level. Having someone alongside you makes it much easier to keep facing the parts of you that are ready to grow.
What men get from this work
Every man comes in with a different history, so we don't promise one specific result. However, men who've worked with our coaches commonly describe becoming:
Most of it comes back to something simple: knowing yourself well enough that you don't have to keep hiding from yourself or the people you love.
Every coach has a specialty.
We'll help you find the right one.
If you aren't sure which coach feels best for you, our program guide Andrey can help you find clarity and make a decision based on your situation.
Sam Gray
Specialties
Who I work best with
I work best with men who want practical support and a clear place to start.
My clients are often capable, driven men who look like they have it together but still feel incomplete on the inside. Many are winning at work while feeling distant from their partner, their kids, or themselves. They may have read the books, taken courses, or spent time in therapy, or be newer to inner work. They’ve gained insight, but have struggled to turn it into lasting changes in how they live.
If you want someone to talk to honestly, help you get clear, and hold you accountable to the changes you want to make, we’ll probably work well together.
A note from Jack
"Sam has a rare ability to make men feel heard without letting them hide from what needs to change. He’s practical, consistent, and especially good at helping guys build the habits and accountability that turn insight into real progress."
Louis Belleau
Specialties
Who I work best with
I work best with men who feel like something important is missing from the life they’ve built.
You may have spent years focused on work, family, achievement, or doing what was expected of you, only to reach a point where your old goals no longer feel meaningful.
Some of the men I work with are navigating a career or relationship transition. Others are questioning their identity, values, spirituality, or what they actually want the next chapter of their life to be about.
A note from Jack
"Louis has an unusual depth of knowledge across spirituality, philosophy, contemplative practice, psychedelics, and the search for meaning. He’s especially good with men who have spent years giving themselves to work, family, or achievement and are beginning to ask what they actually want their life to stand for."
Lion Carew
Specialties
Who I work best with
I work best with men who have already done a significant amount of inner work and want to go deeper.
You may understand your patterns well, have experience with therapy or personal development, and still find yourself getting caught in reactivity, avoidance, shame, control, relationship patterns, or difficulties around sexuality and intimacy.
My work is especially suited to men who are comfortable exploring what they feel and are ready to work more directly with the body, nervous system, and emotional patterns that insight alone hasn’t changed.
A note from Jack
"Lion is an exceptionally talented trauma-informed somatic practitioner and breathwork facilitator. He lives and breathes what he teaches, and he’s one of the people I trust most when a man is ready to go beyond understanding his patterns and work with them at a deeper, embodied level."
Jack Bunce
Specialties
Who I work best with
I work primarily with executives, entrepreneurs, founders, and other men carrying a high level of responsibility.
You may be highly capable in business and still feel lost when it comes to your emotional life or relationships. Work may be going well while your marriage is under pressure. You may shut down during conflict, become reactive or defensive, struggle to set boundaries, or find yourself repeating patterns you cannot seem to solve through discipline or intelligence alone.
I work especially well with men who value privacy, directness, and highly personalized support, and who are ready to take their inner life as seriously as they take everything else they have built.
Our Credentials
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Highly capable men, carrying a lot of responsibility.
Our clients come from many countries, careers, and stages of life. Many are high functioning in almost every part of life — but when it comes to their relationships and mental health, they're struggling. Often, they feel overwhelmed by their emotions and need a safe space to process what they’ve spent a lifetime holding back.
What our clients say...
“Over the course of several sessions I connected with my body in ways I never had before. The dissociation I was feeling no longer grabs hold of me. I'm starting to feel whole again.”
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Working with Jack on my inner child has led me to be less reactive, more emotionally present, and helped me stand in my truth and healthy masculinity. I highly recommend this work to any man.
"After a year of us barely even kissing, we're suddenly having sex all the time. She tells me she feels so safe with me, and she can't keep her hands off me. She even called me 'A Walking Aphrodesiac' last night. Thank you, Jack."
My sex life is incredible, I’ve been getting more exercise in, really treating my body like a temple. I’m doing regular self-pleasuring practices & can regularly hold my seed during self-pleasure and sex with my wife… Connection to myself and my body & harnessing this power has truly amazing. Truly appreciate your work.
My situations was urgent… I needed that guidance, and Lion was there. It was through his deep mindful practices where I had a lot discoveries… a lot or reorganization of my own emotions and perspectives on life. He helped me to delve into my confidence, feel proud of that confidence, and actually live it!
When I first met Louis, his openness and confident vulnerability drew me in. After doing breathwork with him, I saw that guiding others was his true calling. Louis's peaceful demeanor was calming and I felt a deep sense of safety. Our conversations have lightened my path, reducing shame and revealing a core value of compassion. His knowledge of Buddhism, yoga, and nature-based traditions has deepened my practice, teaching me gentleness towards myself.
Louis naturally breathes and embodies a presence of deep peace. The breathwork sessions we did together were life changing. A combination of crystal clear intuition and skillful guidance made me feel safe and held, allowing for a frozen part of me, stuck and hidden in time, to open and melt with great lightness and ease.
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Our coaching engagements
The patterns men bring into coaching have usually been happening for years, so the work requires a commitment. Most engagements begin with 12 sessions over three months, then we re-evaluate.
We’ve found this to be the minumum effective dose for deep transformation. Our goal is to help you achieve your goals and move forward, not to keep you in coaching forever.
Tell us what's going on. We'll help you find the right fit.
We'll ask about what you're struggling with, what you'd like to change, and what kind of support you're looking for. Then we’ll help you figure out which coach is likely to be the best fit. If we don't think coaching with us makes sense for your situation, we'll tell you.
Common Questions
That men ask when they begin this work.
Traditional therapy often lacks the personal nature of a coaching relationship. While we use some of the same tools and processes a therapist would use, our coaches specializes in men's issues and offer solutions that often go deeper than traditional talk therapy does. Coaching isn't a replacement for therapy if you're dealing with a mental health condition or crisis, and many men find the two work well together.
Every engagement is tailored to the man and the work he's doing, so pricing depends on your coach, session length, and the support that fits your situation. Our team will walk you through our process and costs on a call after you apply. There's no pressure to move forward, and if coaching with us isn't the right fit, we'll tell you.
Most of the men we work with would have said the same thing at some point. As men, many of us have spent our lives being capable, solving problems, and pushing through, learning to dissociate and push down our feelings along the way. You don't need to arrive knowing what you feel or how to talk about it. That's what the work helps you build. We start where you are, often with what's happening in your body, and go from there.
Yes, all sessions are held over video, so you can work with us from anywhere. We work with men across the world, and your coach will find session times that fit your schedule.
Courses, groups, and retreats are great for opening things up. Coaching is where you take that work into your specific life and integrate what you’ve learned over a sustained period of time: your unique situation, your triggers, and your goals. Your coach works with what's happening for you week to week, helps you integrate what came up, and keeps you accountable to the changes you want to make. For many men, it's the step that turns ongoing insight into lasting change.
