Chapter 7: What is Masculinity? What is Alpha?

Even in our modern day, many men still wonder: “what does it mean to be a man?”. There a several ways to approach this question, however when you take the energtic persecutive the underlying dynamics of how we function as men in our highest power becomes clear.

Biologically, men a geared to have access and embody more of what is called Masculinity, or Alpha energy. These words are not static states or concepts, their are principles and essences that are playing out in your life and your being all the time. The questions is: “am I embodying a healthy masculine & alpha state”.

In this video, we are going to clearly lay out what this masculine essence is, and how it ties into your sex life. We will demystify the principles of presence, awareness, clarity, vastness, and how the most integrated and healthy state of the Alpha energy is service and generosity. And of course, we will address how not just the understanding, but the embodiment of your healthy masculine state needed for the health of your relationship and the blooming of your sex life.

Questions and actionable items for this Chapter:

• Connecting to your inner truth and gaining clarity journaling exercise: Every morning go to your journal or laptop and start with the prompt: “If I am really being honest with myself…” and just let it flow. If you think it, write it. The point here is to witness what’s coming up for you, build deeper self awareness, and remove access mind chatter so you can step into your day with more clarity and direction.
• If you’re not clear on yourself, you won’t be clear in life and your sex. We need to know what principles and values we uphold so we know when we are stepping out of integrity. Carve out 10-15 minutes to get clear on your principles/values and use these as pillars of integrity as filters to audit how you act in life and in your relationship.
  • Examples Principles:
    • Do no harm
    • Treat others as you’d like to be treated
    • Be honest and truthful
    • Be kind and compassionate
    • Student mindset
    • Process > Destination
    • Embrace emotions
    • Nurture relationship
    • Practice gratitude
    • Embrace challenges
    • Embrace the Unknown
    • Take responsibility for your words and actions
    • Focus on what you can control
    • Don’t compare yourself to others
    • Practice patience
    • Foregiveness
    • Be optimistic
• Journaling Practice + Embodied Action:
  1. Ask yourself honestly: “What’s one characteristic of the healthy Masculine/Alpha energy that I wish to improve on in my life?” (i.e. presence, self-awareness, clarity, generosity, service). Why do you want to focus on this area? (why does it matter to you, and how does not improving it negatively impact your life?)
  2. Now commit to 1 small daily action in order to embody the area in which you want to improve. Because knowledge without action os cognitive dissonance and that hurts. You will do this small daily action for the remainder of the course. Here are some examples you can draw from or use yourself:
     1. 5 minute morning meditation to cultivate presence
     2. 10 minute morning planning session to cultivate clarity on your day (i.e. top 3 things that need to get done today, appointments, errands, etc)
     3. Every time you get triggered /charged/uncomfortable stopping what you’re doing, taking a breath, and lengthening your spine to cultivate awareness
     4. Committing to 1 act of service a week to your partner to cultivate service/generosity